Ever have those days where you feel like something is ‘wrong’ with you because you can’t seem to get yourself to DO all things you “know how to do”?
But I assure you, this is NOT the case.
There is nothing wrong with you at all! You’re just experiencing the SYMPTOMS of a ‘broken’ SYSTEM.
Yep, it’s the law of ‘Cause and Effect’ in action….only this time it’s working AGAINST you!
So would you like to figure out where your system is broken? Or at least not working for you?
Here’s the Top 10 Reasons Why Your Weight Loss Plan STOPPED Working For You (so you can figure out where your system is broken…and go do something about it!)
1. There is no system
Perhaps you’re wandering around aimlessly. Perhaps you’ve decided to not follow anything. Or perhaps you haven’t found YOUR system for getting and KEEPING results. Either way, a plane with no destination point won’t get anywhere you could possibly predict or control. Catch my drift?
2. It’s too complex to understand
If you don’t get it…or simply following it hurts your brain, stresses you out, or makes in a pain-in-the-ass to stick with, you won’t.
3. Unclear intent for the steps.
If you’re not fully clear or don’t understand, why you’re doing something, you’ll never have that full (emotional) ‘buy in’ that you need to ever really own the steps. You’ll always be doing them out of the voice that’s telling you that you “should” or are “supposed to”, and eventually you’ll get sick of persuading yourself or talking yourself into things. And who’d blame you? It’s A LOT of work!
4. The steps change too frequently or quickly
Your brain needs enough time to associate, integrate, and process habits in a way that would send them back to the long-term ‘storage area’ in your brain. If things are changing too quickly or frequently you’ll always need to be operating from that energy-expensive prefrontal cortex of yourse. Major brain threat for your long-term habit brain and (let’s be honest) totally exhausting! You want your ‘winning game’ plan to become easier as you practice it in order for it to stick.
5. Lack of belief in the steps
Again if you don’t have that emotional ‘buy-in’ with the steps you’re taking, you’re going to be doing them just to ‘do them’, and that day WILL come that you get sick of forcing yourself and talking yourself into things.
6. Lack of belief in the outcome.
My inner ‘lazy gal’ isn’t afraid of hard work, but she also doesn’t want to have to work harder than she has to. So if I have doubts (or flat-out don’t beleive) that my hard work will pay off for me in the (short and) long-run, chances are I’m not going to do it very long — if at all. And your inner ‘lazy gal’ won’t either.
7. Wrong Timing
Timing isn’t EVERYTHING, but it is a big something. If you want to successfully move in the direction of any goal-seeking endeavor (for anything, but especially your body), and it does take a certain amount of time, energy, heart, soul, and sweat…
Granted it doesn’t have to be as hard as it’s probably being made for you up until now, but I digress…
Bottom line: Timing DOES matter.
8. You’re not ready for either the step, the phase, or coaching input around it.
Sometimes I’m just not ready — I’m not ‘there’ yet. And when I’m not, I KNOW I’m not. I feel it in my gut. I hear that truth coming from my heart.
Same is true for when I’m simply not ‘coachable’. Whether I’m overwhelmed, still organizing my own thoughts on the matter, or just don’t want input or advice at this moment in time, I know it in my heart and gut when this is so. And I have a feeling that if you looked to yours, you would know when this feels true for you too.
9. You’re committed to another system.
Give yourself the gift of directed focus, energy, strategy, or direction. Stop merely ‘dabbling’ and trying to dip your toes in a bunch of things at once that you aren’t really doing wholeheartedly. (THere are of course exceptions to this rule. See also: Experimentation to find what you love). But if you are going to commit to something, do it with your whole heart. Or at least wait until get ‘there’ (or go do what you need to do to create the space for that to happen).
10. You don’t want it to succeed
Imagine a situation you couldn’t WAIT to get out of. A conversation, a situation, a decision…
How fast were you waiting to run for the trees or obsessively following the second hand to the minute hand — hoping time would fast-forward so you could break free?
So how long do you think you’re going to stick with a program, an experience, or a ‘lifestyle’ you absolutely HATE — that you can’t wait for it to end?
The inner-rebel in you will “drive that car into a wall” so fast just to let you off the hook or see it come to an end. Trust me. You WILL subconsciously undermine your success if you hate it.
